NOTE: Through this blog post, in no way am I implying that you should not get married or you should stay single. These are my thoughts. You must do what you feel is truly best for you whether it be staying single or getting in a relationship. I hope that you take the decision most suitable for you.
So, here is the thing. For some reason, the society places a lot of emphasis on being in a relationship and somehow there is this notion that you need to be in a relationship to be happy. Even in movies and television shows that we watch, often we find them placing a huge amount of importance on finding love. So, a lot of people who are influenced by such things suddenly feel a huge amount of pressure to be in a relationship. Some people might feel worthless if they are not in a relationship.
Somehow, a lot of people have the perception that love is about finding the other half to complete you. If you have seen the movie ‘Jerry Maguire’, in the end Tom Cruise approaches his wife and talks about how his life has been incomplete without her. I think movies like these can paint a very wrong picture of how it is important to be in a relationship. The thing is one can be totally happy all by himself/herself. This is something everyone must be aware of. A lot of friends that I have known for sometime can’t even imagine staying single for a long time. They always equate happiness with being in a relationship which I feel is really stupid.
Talking about happiness, I feel happiness does not depend on relationships, money etc. It is true that you will find couples who are unhappy and singles who are very happy. Some people who have less money are happy while those with a lot of money are unhappy. The opposite in the above cases is also true. What we should realise is the fact that we can always offer ourselves whatever the other person has to offer us. As individuals, we are already whole and complete all by ourselves.
With that being said, I always wonder if it is better to be in a relationship or not. Having been single all my life, I at times feel what is it like to be in a relationship. But the thing is that a lot of people value what they don’t have. When you don’t have something, it feels like you are missing something, even if that thing is not as valuable as you think it is. Now, I don’t want to discourage anyone from being in a relationship. If you think being in a relationship is the right thing for you then obviously you must go for it. Most probably, I might feel the same way after a few years.
However, what I feel is a lot of people are scared to be alone. A lot of single people are unhappy because they feel as if they are missing something very important in their life, which might not be the case. A lot of couples are leading a very miserable life. After all, it is difficult to spend your life with someone who is despising you or vice versa. So, many people think being in a relationship will put an end to their loneliness or misery only to find that they were better off being single. At the same time, there are several people who feel lonely being single. They have no one to share their feelings with. It is a misery for them to live all by themselves. There are 2 sides to every coin.
I personally feel that it is absolutely possible to be happy all by yourself. It is important to realize that one’s mind will always crave for what one does not have. If you are single, the mind might crave for relationships and if you are in a relationship you might crave for the carefree days that you had while you were single.
Personally, these are my thoughts at the moment. I might change my mind in future who knows. I feel you must do what you feel is best for you. If you are happy in your relationship, then it is the best thing. If you have been single, then you must know that you can be happy all by yourself.